In September 2008 I wrote what is possibly one of the most difficult blog posts I have written. No one made me write it, but I felt as if I needed to. One reason was just to get it off my chest, but I also wanted to write to let other parents know that they are not alone. I am re-running that post today and next week I plan to discuss where we currently are in this journey.
Why is it that, as mothers, we will not discuss the trials and troubles we have with our children.
Is it because we are fearful it will cause people to judge our parenting skills (you know they always do). Is it because we don't want to admit our troubles because we are afraid of how to face them?
I want to discuss this trial in order to encourage other mothers. I really am not seeking advice, but if you want to give some feel free. I am not casting judgment on others, but simply sharing my family's journey.First Steps
I struggle with this concern the most because it is one area where judgment is placed the most on me. It is suggested that I don't talk to my child or spend any time with him (you might as well slap me in the face to even think this). Or suggested that our decision to not implement day care or social activites as the cause for his lack of social skills (and maybe it is partly true). It is suggested that he is on the Autism spectrum (which, at this time, is not believed to be so).
As we have been walking the journey of intervention for Hoss I have determined my opinion. He is Hoss. Plain and simple. Take him or leave him, he'll still be Hoss. He is not going to change for you. If you approach Hoss and say hello to him he probably will not respond. He's afraid, nervous and just plain shy. Hoss is not outgoing, nor do I expect him to ever be. He is probably not going to strike up a conversation with you. Please don't take this to mean that he doesn't want to interact with you. He does, but on his own terms.