Rosemond advice would add to abusive behavior
I am horrified that an "expert" on parenting and family relationships is so ignorant of verbal and emotional abuse issues ("Give young man time to grow out of 'put-downs,' " March 8).
I hope the mother has enough common sense not to follow John Rosemond's suggestions.
The boyfriend's having a coherent plan for his life does not give him the right to abuse the daughter.
Verbal abuse is not an annoying habit. It is abusive behavior toward another which he learned from his father, not from watching too many "family" sitcoms.
Nor is it the daughter's responsibility to help him change. That is his responsibility.
Abusers do not "grow out" of abusing others. They need professional help to stop their abusive behaviors.
Furthermore, Rosemond is being irresponsible in stating that the daughter has a slim chance of finding another boyfriend with a coherent life plan, that he is a good find, and the mother should do everything she can to keep him.
Instead, she should be educating her daughter about verbal abuse.
A good place to start is by reading books on verbally abusive relationships and on angry and controlling men, such as those written by Patricia Evans and Lundy Bancroft.
I suggest Rosemond educate himself, and that this newspaper not publish such socially destructive and incorrect material.
It's not what you don't know that hurts you, it's what you know that just isn't so that hurts you, and others.
Protect these 'rights'
I find it interesting that the Kentucky General Assembly has voted to amend the state constitution to "protect the right to hunt, fish and harvest wildlife using traditional methods" by citizens of Kentucky.
While I do not know if this also applies to non-citizens, I would like to suggest a few other amendments that I consider of equal importance:
1. All citizens of Kentucky should have the right to breathe the air and drink the water in Kentucky no matter how toxic or polluted it is now or may become in the future.
2. Anyone with a clear title to property could swap it for any state-owned land. All that would be necessary is to have someone in the Transportation Department or some other state agency sign off on the swap.
3. Senate and House ethics committees could be dissolved since there is rarely enough evidence of any ethics violations in either body to justify the need for this entity.
4. Eliminate the need for any oversight whatsoever of public and quasi-public authorities, greatly reducing the pressure on anyone who is supposed to be exercising this oversight.
5. Even in this age of instant communication in all its electronic forms, an amendment should be included that it is still permissible to communicate with pen and paper or various other outdated methods here within the great state of Kentucky.
A dream location
I recently drove downtown and realized that the controversial block of green grass has actually turned out to be the most beautiful block in Lexington.
Maybe CentrePointe was not meant to be. As we've been taught, God works in mysterious ways.
As we Kentuckians love our beautiful state, the fact remains not many of us could have afforded a night's stay at CentrePointe.
Now you can stand on this block and witness our beautiful buildings, beautiful sidewalks, beautiful trees and flowing traffic that our Lexington leaders have worked tirelessly to accomplish for the past 50 years.
Could you imagine the value of this block to all Kentuckians during downtown holiday events?
Could you imagine a 2-foot tall, maintenance-free, white fence around this block?
Could you imagine our Christmas tree sitting right in the middle of this block at Christmas time?
Could you imagine blinking Christmas lights on the white fence?
Could you imagine other city leaders and mayors rushing to Lexington to witness our beautiful block of green space?
Please don't awaken me from this imaginary dream.
I wonder how many people remember the characters that used to be active in downtown Lexington. First and foremost was a character called Long John.
He wore a tuxedo with top hat and carried a cane. You would see him coming and yell, "There goes Long John!"
Another character was Georgetown. He carried the daily paper under one arm and visited the offices downtown and sold his papers. He chewed tobacco and was always looking for a place to spit.
When he finished selling all of his papers, he headed to Georgetown, where he lived. That's how he got the name Georgetown. They said he had a college education, but I don't really know.
Then there was the Western Union boy. He always wore laced-up boots and rode a bike to deliver telegrams.
Pledge not optional
What planet do our lawmakers in Frankfort come from? Children can stay seated during the pledge?
The Pledge of Allegiance should be at the start of the class and, unless handicapped, all students should stand tall and recite the pledge.
'Hate' that cartoon
Joel Pett's cartoon of March 8 had "GOP hates" unions, immigrants, EPA, PBS, renewable energy and teachers.
Maybe his next cartoon will be "Obama hates" cops, Arizona, border security, U.S. energy, the military and America in general.
Waiver's right for Ky.
A recent article reported that Kentucky is seeking a waiver from a federal rule requiring "large insurance companies to spend at least 85 percent of premiums on medical care" ("Kentucky seeks waiver on spending by insurers," March 1).
State leaders are absolutely right to do so.
According to a 2006 PricewaterhouseCoopers study, people in states with minimum loss ratios have to deal with less competition among insurers and higher premiums than their counterparts in states without them.
The new rules have already driven Iowa-based Principal Financial Group from the market, leaving consumers with fewer choices.
If they force insurers from the Bluegrass State, then Kentuckians can look forward to paying even more for their policies.
Executive vice president/CEONational Association of Health UnderwritersArlington, Va.