Don't choose a narcissist to lead
Narcissists lack empathy and are unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others. They feel entitled and above the rules, like exploiting others for one's own benefit such as plagiarizing other peoples work to gain attention and admiration.
Narcissists have a sustained, unrealistic sense of being superior. They are driven by a grandiose sense of supremacy, for example creating one's own medical board with expectation of being recognized as a board-certified ophthalmologist.
Narcissists have a lust for power and demand special treatment. They do not consider the pain they inflict on others; nor do they care how others think or feel. Don't expect them to listen, understand, support or accept others.
The narcissist is like a toddler who thinks he is the center of the universe and throws a temper tantrum when others don't meet his demands or try to correct his behavior. Is this really the type of person we want to lead the free world?
Not so exceptional
American exceptionalism? Now that I am exceptional should I stop listening to Aaron Copland's Fanfare for the Common Man?
Seems we should change the Preamble from "We, the people" to "we the exceptional?"
I always thought I was a common American man. After all, I had only one vote. But now, being exceptional, I feel high and mighty. It's like getting a promotion without a pay raise.
If our women also are exceptional, we have superior men and women. The children, of course, then all will be above average as radio host Garrison Keillor says in his Lake Wobegone shows.
Can someone tell me if I still am the common American man or if I somehow, without effort, have been elevated to exceptional?
Judge Rupp on his record
On March 29, the Herald-Leader printed my letter about coach Adolph Rupp deserving a statue in his honor. On April 5, a letter offered a rebuttal because of human rights.
Rupp, or any other coach, should not be judged on their beliefs, religious or otherwise. We are at war with people who believe we should be punished for our beliefs. They are called ISIS.
The statue should be erected because of a coach's accomplishments and deeds. Not because of his beliefs.
Some say that Rupp doesn't have anything to do with Kentucky's success now. Another myth. At one time, Paul Bear Bryant was as good a coach at football as Rupp was at basketball. How have you liked your football teams since he left?
Same thing would have happened to basketball. When you build statues to honor a coach and have others that deserve it more, then you undermine the significance of the statue to the level of a yard ornament or a place birds can do their business.
It is time to draw the line on political correctness and start calling things like they are instead of doing things just to appease certain groups of people.
Would you like to do some volunteer work that is really satisfying? If so, try Best Friends at Brannon Crossing. It's a day center for people with Alzheimer's disease or other types of dementia.
The volunteer is a best friend to a participant. We act as partners, not caregivers. We know our best friend's life story, which is helpful.
We sing, dance, do art, cook, play games and talk about the olden days. Sometimes there's outside entertainment, usually piano, guitar and dulcimer players. The former bugler at Keeneland, Bucky Sallee, came in his Keeneland clothes and bugled for us, which went over big.
Virginia Bell, who designed the Best Friends approach lives in Lexington and is the co-author of many books on Alzheimer's.
I've been a volunteer for 17 years. Going there is a highlight of my week. Call Bobby Potts at (859) 258-2226 for more information.
Susan K. Harbour