I'm inspired this week by the words of a popular and charismatic leader in the New Thought community who passed this week: Wayne Dyer.: "When the choice is to be right or to be kind, always make the choice that brings peace."
In Kentucky, if you have watched the news on television, read a newspaper, eavesdropped at the water cooler or been on Facebook this week, you are probably aware of the controversy surrounding the Rowan County clerk who went to jail in protest of the Supreme Court decision that effectively legalized marriage contracts between persons of the same gender.
Kim Davis has many supporters and many detractors, and spirits are running higher and higher as the drama continues day after day — ruling after ruling, refusal after refusal.
As a lesbian who just gained the right to legally marry my partner of 13 years anywhere in the United States — and a law-abiding citizen — I have my opinions about this situation. I'm writing about what I know to be the truth of this situation and I'm not talking about the "facts."
I have to admit that I believe Davis is truly standing up for what she believes; and I know the dilemma that is created when you take a stand and then consider what life might be like if you have to back away from that position.
Years ago, I worked in a local print shop and was asked to copy a flyer for an upcoming Ku Klux Klan event, and I refused to do it because of my personal beliefs about the organization. My refusal stunned my co-workers and greatly angered the customer. He called for the manager to come and force me to do what I was being paid to do.
What he got was the owner of the business who backed me up and said the gentleman could take his business elsewhere. In the moments that I waited for the owner to come out of his office, though, I considered what I would do if he didn't support me and I knew I was about to lose my job as I just couldn't bring myself to have a hand in something I was in such opposition to.
I had drawn my line in the sand.
My situation didn't turn out like Davis' has but she has drawn her line in the sand and I appreciate her not backing down even as I disagree with her position about marriage equality.
I was not ridiculed or belittled for my stand, although, in the past, people have suffered that fate and worse for taking the position I did. My appearance wasn't criticized. No one complained about my clothes, whether I was pretty or not or the times in my past when I might have been guilty of doing things in opposition to the very stand I was taking. My picture wasn't on the national news or all the local TV stations and newspapers. Davis is experiencing all of that right now — unjustly, I might add.
In my quest to represent what I believe to be the right thing, the fair thing and the just thing, I can't forget that God is right where Davis is, also. That she is a divine, whole and complete expression of that one life that is God's life. That what she believes about marriage doesn't matter and what I believe about marriage doesn't matter. That how many times she's been married and divorced doesn't matter or how many children she has or who fathered her children doesn't matter. It really doesn't.
My righteous self likes to be right but when I step away from that and look at what I know to be true — that there is no separation between me and Davis — that we are one in that truth and divine light, regardless of our attachments and beliefs about fairness and equality.
I am always more peaceful and loving and accepting when I stay open to the truth, and that is infinitely better for me, for everyone.